Introduction
If you’re reading this page, it’s likely your relationship is hurting somehow - angry words, betrayal, an uneasy silence - something’s got your relationship down. You’ve come here hoping to find caring, competent support to help you get through this difficult time and rekindle the love, the romance, the connection that once drew you together.
You’ve come to the right place. I’d love to help. And I have the skill and the competence to do just that. Together, you and your partner will experience a healing relationship with me, your therapist, where those hurt parts of relationship will heal, and you’ll reclaim that lost sense of togetherness again.
How I’ll Help
Here’s a quick summary of how I’ll help.
First, I’ll gently follow your lead, listening and understanding as each of you help me understand the unmet needs and feelings in the relationship. You’ll both have the opportunity to share and you’ll each feel heard and understood.
In a manner that’ll be transparent to you, I’ll make use of a collection of powerful theoretical approaches to therapy: By interweaving all these together, what you’ll experience is a caring therapist filled with many tools and skills to help your relationship heal.
What it’s Like - in 3 Parts
What follows is a summary of what it feels like in couples counseling, so you’ll know just what to expect.
Part 1 - Attunement
“I feel you care - about my relationship, and about me.”
When either you or your partner are sad, you’ll find in me a compassionate lister. When you’re scared or anxious, you’ll find me offering a feeling of security. When you’re angry, I’ll take you seriously and be impacted by that anger. Whatever you or your partner are feeling, you’ll find me tuned in and right there with you both. Each of you will be heard and understood.
“I’ve got an advocate, someone who cares about me and my relationship and is going to get me through this.”
Part 2 - Involvement
“You’re involved with us”.
I make it a priority to listen and understand, to be sure you and your partner feel heard and valued: And I also make sure I go beyond listening - and get involved.
I’ve got many years of clinical training and experience. And I’ll use that to help your relationship: together, we’ll find the words to give you a deep understanding of what’s gone wrong in the relationship. Together, we’ll create a profound understanding of what’s been going on, an understanding will allow us to heal the relational wounds.
“Carl works with us,” my couples clients tell me. “ Sure, he listens, but he doesn’t just sit back listening. He gets in the trenches with us. While I can feel his compassion, I deeply appreciate his insights.”
Part 3 - Resolution
And then, together, we’ll do the healing work. You’ve come to me because your relationship is hurting and, ultimately, you need someone who can help you heal. I’ll support and empower you both to make the changes that lead to wholeness and wellness: encouraging relational transitions; making changes out there in the way you live your shared life; doing the emotional healing work in session with me. Whatever the work, we’ll do it together. We’ll get you to the other side of this healing journey. And there you can enjoy the laughter and the love that’s at the heart of your relationship.
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